Rejection
Misplaced identity, resulting in idolatry of affirmation, and a dismissal of the acceptance we have in God.
When father and mother reject me, the Lord will take me up. Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.
We were born with a great need to be accepted, and R's assignment is to steal the truth from us that we are accepted, ultimately, by God. It's a "strong man" spirit and often the entry point to other spirits. If you have bitterness and unforgiveness, rejection probably came first. Rejection LOVES to be rejected. It needs to be rejected. Rejection reminds us of our deep need to be loved, but constantly tells us that we are unlovable. It starves you of the love and acceptance (and peace) you so desperately need! So you go to people...
Rejection both has an unnatural craving for acceptance, and pushes people away: it builds a wall around us and makes us repel love (and acceptance). This "pushing" can look like: picking fights. Oversensitivity. Picking apart words, intentions--easily offended. "He's being nice because he has to." Judges facial expressions, body language (you expect folks to find someone else more interesting to talk to), doesn't accept others' saying they love us, makes you feel like you don't belong. It is highly self-centered. Socially awkward people are rejected people. R often has you act out (tattoos, outlandish behavior, coarse language, wild dress) so that people WILL reject you (then you can say "aha! Judgmental people! You reject me!"), OR it can have you NEVER express yourself ("play it safe, play it safe...") because you already assume you'll be rejected. You're in bondage. You reject others so that they can't reject you. You also can't receive correction or criticism because, in your mind, it's ALL personal.
As R craves acceptance, you throw yourself at something, often setting yourself up for more rejection. You may mimic someone else's personality because you hate your own. You may turn to Performance and Drivenness - "I will earn love!" R looks for love at all cost - getting into relationships too soon and even marrying the wrong spouse (rejection finds others w/rejection). All for the search for being accepted, loved, and received. You're overly opinionated (think Michael Scott) (you NEED people to come to you for advice, you LOVE to tell someone what to do), having a need to be right (Can you admit you're wrong? Do you LOVE correction? Prov 12:1).
Rejection scrutinizes your actions, and replays situations: "Why did I say that last night? Next time, I'll act like THIS ... then everyone will like me." You are constantly insulting yourself, preventing yourself from accepting opportunities, knocking down compliments and thanks, and generally not receiving. It can feel like self-defense: you have a fear of being open, transparent, and vulnerable, and you have a fear of failing--always looking for others' approval. You have a need to be part of everything, because if you're not on the inside of everything, you feel rejected. You may also blame God: "Why'd God give me this big nose? Why'd he make me so short?" etc. You may feel that God is always angry at you.